I would like to tell a story and why it fits me currently. As many of you know I am currently in transition in several areas of my life and that changes are on the horizon. One is I am stepping back from doing a lot of trainings, as I am focused on my new project, LiveFree I hope to see you soon. Here is the story, and then why it is so powerful to me:
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?” “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft and mushy. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hardened egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee.
The daughter smiled as she tasted its deep flavor and inhaled its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What’s the point, mother?”
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity – boiling water – but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin, outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong? But with pain and adversity, do I wilt and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but, after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water – the very circumstance that brings the adversity, the pain, the hardship – into something quite wonderful. When the water gets hot, it releases its fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better, and change the situation around you for the better.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
When I look at my life I pray that I am like coffee and that I bring some sort of change to the people, places and situations I come into contact with. That I leave all better for the interaction. I have trained a lot of people and hope that they will continue to spread the word and power of NLP, as true power is shown when others tell others so the message spreads. I also have been blessed to help people with addictions, in many ways.
I want people to live their dreams, to experience life at its fullest, and I know that if your not it is because you have not been given the correct tools and we all are aware that the media and other groups would like to keep people disempowered, and I know that you, like me, easily know that those of us given these tools and blessing have an obligation to spread the power as the world greatly needs it. Our common enemy is ignorance, fear, and greed, and only together can we grow, by helping others we help ourselves.
Thanks to all of you, I am living my destiny and my dreams.
Dr. Will Horton